New Habits for a Happier Life
Me in Bali with a Guru!
Have you ever felt in the doldrums? Like you wouldn't call yourself depressed or even sad, but just not that happy? It could be because you are not fulfilling your life purpose or that, to be honest you are bored! You may have security in relationships and even with money, but something just doesn't feel right. If that's the case, then try these few simple new habits for a happier life. They say it takes 21 days to form a new habit so why not dedicate three weeks out of your life to see if this makes a change?
Switch Social Media to Beautiful Photos
OK, I admit I'm glued to my phone and one of my bad habits is looking at it prior to falling asleep. I look at social media and I look at the news, but lately I've switched this habit to a new one. Instead of looking at social media and news, that stimulates my brain and sometimes makes me upset, I browse through the most exquisite photos on 500px. Try it! It's a simple swap. Still, shouldn't be looking at bright screens before bed though! I need to work on that one.
Do Something for Someone Else
Photo: My dad before he got sick. He would drive 50km each way, sometimes twice a day to visit my mother's grave. This candid photo was taken when he wasn't looking with a tear in his eye for mum.
At the time of writing, I'm spending half my working week as my dad's carer. Dad is aging and it's hard for him to be totally self-sufficient. This is actually a huge strain on me, as I have to drive 40km in the country each way, do his shopping, clean the house, take him to his appointments (we are remote so it's a long way), keep my blogs going and my freelance business so I can earn an income. As well as that I'm dealing with a terrible flare up of Crohn's Disease. There have been times when I've thought this is all a bit too much on me. Those negative feelings were making me very unhappy and so I had a good talk to myself and changed my thoughts to:
I get to have a lovely country drive every second day
I get to spend valuable time with dad and we sit out on the verandah and discuss all sorts of things
I am contributing to dad's life
Dad provided and looked after me all these years and it's an honour to help him stay at home and not in a facility
I am still getting all my work done
Every day I get to spend with dad is a blessing
My mother died three years ago and I never had the opportunity to help her or spend time with her. Now I'm making up for that and by just changing my thinking, everything is different. I'm much happier, I'm grateful and everything gets done without any drama. The mind is so powerful.
Swap Your Nightly Tipple for a Green Smoothie
I love champagne! But I had a very bad habit of drinking champagne way too frequently! So I stopped that and I swapped the champagne for a Green Smoothie.
The benefits were enormous:
Wake up bright as a spark
Clearer and vibrant skin
Go to Nature
There's something about nature that seems to give good vibes. For me it does anyway. Nothing can lift my spirits more than when I go bush or find a secluded beach to explore. I have another blog about travel and lifestyle on the Mid North Coast of NSW and take myself off to remote areas all the time. I only have to step into a rainforest and a wave of peace and tranquility gently washes over me.
Personally, I feel gratitude is the key to happiness. How many things do you take for granted? I know I have been very ungrateful in my years, however I also spend time contemplating my thoughts and what I have. I've also learnt through the years that I must not blame other people for my life. This is big! It's so easy to fall into the trap of blaming others. Practising gratitude and forgiveness leads to happiness.
Enjoying a fire and sunset over a country property. Read more.
Love the Little Things in Life
Simple pleasures are so uplifting such as watching a sunrise, watching little children play, enjoying time with the family, lazing in bed on a Sunday morning, going on a picnic. With so much chaos around trying to earn a living, paying the bills, our health etc if we all just took the time to be in the moment and love the little things in life, that helps lead to happiness.
There you have it. New habits for a happier life.