“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life and don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. Most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become.” —Steve Jobs
I believe one of the biggest lessons in life is to follow your own life purpose, and to be successful you need to do what you want, what makes you happy and not to be a people pleaser. So many people feel they have to live their lives a certain way because if they don’t, they will offend or upset other people. This could be your parents, your teacher, your mentor, your friend or anyone who tries to tell you what is best for you.
I am not saying to never take advice from others; what I am saying is find out what makes you happy! When I started my career, I worked as a secretary and I was told, and made to believe, that because I did not finish school, I would not be able to do anything else with my life except work in administration. I actually believed that! In fact it took me until I was 40 years old to realise I was far more capable than that kind of work that did not inspire me. I was actually working against my strengths and was working with my weaknesses.
Once I realised that I could, and would have a career that suited me, I went for it. Did I fail? Many times? Did I ever give up? No, I did not.
Today, I am the Editor of a successful online magazine/blog called Sydney Chic, I’m also a trainer and a social media marketing consultant.
However, my life purpose is to give hope to others and I know what I have been through in my life qualifies me to do that.
The day I discovered my life purpose was when I was walking to do a restaurant review and I asked God “What is my life purpose?” and immediately I got “You give hope to people”. I then felt an overwhelming ‘knowing’ as it I knew this to be true. I asked for confirmation and about 5 minutes later a well-dressed man came up to me and told me a story about not having any money to get home due to losing his wallet. I didn’t really believe him to be honest, and I was a bit short of cash myself, but I gave him $20. His face lit up and I saw something remarkable, I just gave him hope. I knew, without a doubt this was my proof that I was on the right path.
Being spiritual doesn't mean you have to be a people pleaser. For example, recently a call came through my phone on a number that I did not recognise. It was from a lady who I had met a couple of years ago when I was in the speaking and training industry and who was running training and personal development seminars. To be honest I didn’t really remember her, but as she was talking to me it was obvious she wanted me to attend the training/workshops. I just came straight out with “I don’t do group training, and no I’m really not interested” whereas a couple of years ago I would have said “OK send me your information” and probably got talked into doing something I didn’t want to do.
What really amazed me with this conversation I was straight to the point and said, “no I don’t want to do that”.
Try saying no, it’s powerful.